You Will Not Get Things Accomplished
The sooner you accept this fact, the better. The trick is you have to truly, deeply, accept it within your deepest of hearts. You cannot have Twinpeace without this golden nugget of acceptance glowing inside your soul.
As time goes on -- my boys are almost nine months now -- sleeping patterns become more predictable and manageable. Sleeping through the night is so huge -- you can now use your babies' down time in a useful way, instead of wandering around like a zombie with a dishcloth in your hand. Now you can try to plan -- during this nap, you will fold a load of laundry. During the next nap, you will unload the dishwasher. The following nap will have at least a superficial vacuum. Dinner? Maybe the husband can pick something up on the way home.
At this point, I am gradually adding more tasks that I can take care of on a weekly basis. Some weeks, not all of it gets done. Some days are spent entirely on feedings, diaper changes, and keeping babies content and I don't even get a minute to wash bottles or to give the guys a bath.
To new or expectant mothers of multiples, I have the following advice:
- Accept you will not get things done, that anything you try to get accomplished may be interrupted at any time and you may not return to it anytime soon.
- If you do find that you have 'wasted' some time, enjoy it. Seriously. Wasting time is a luxury to be savored. It is also important to your sanity. If your kids unexpectedly sleep longer than you thought they would and you vegged out, don't feel guilty. You needed that recharge
- Once you figure out your best bottle/nipple combination, buy three days worth. This is a lot for multiples, but worth it. If you find yourself in the midst of a particularly hectic day, you don't have to worry about running out of clean bottles. You won't believe what a huge load this is off your mind.
- If 'public area surface cleaning' is all you can accomplish, that's a huge accomplishment! Keeping living room and kitchen tidy enough for company to drop by and not pity the new mom is more than many of us can handle. This is not the time for vacuuming behind the sofa.
- Remember, always remember, when you are stressing about something that needs to get done: if you are with your baby, there is absolutely nothing more important that you should be doing. Find your peace and enjoyment. The rest of the world be hanged.